By: Ann DeLuca
Two steps forward…three steps back….
Holy moly! Change is hard! So you're trying something new, looking at building a skill, or seeking some sort of change? Bravo! Today I want to give a shout-out to all of you doing the work. The stuff to show up better in this world, to address the things in and around you that you want to be different. This stuff is hard. Change, building competence and confidence, saying no to something so you can say yes to something else. All of it. No matter what change or skill you're looking to make or build...I feel you.
There will never be a "perfect' path.
How about you stop, take a look back, and see far you've come? Impressive I bet. This is something you can sometimes forget to do…reflect on the small changes you've been making. There will never be a "perfect" path. Aim for progression, not perfection. Recently I've been on my own journey of change and it's given me such an appreciation for all of you out there. This change stuff is work. Until you do something enough times, your tendency to revert to old ways is going to be incredibly powerful. It brings a feeling of safety and comfort even if it's no longer useful for you. That's why when you're looking to do something different...understanding your default settings is useful. This is your baseline, the default you are working from, and quite honestly, against. And, sadly, you will most likely return to it. Unless...you do the work.
Are you ready?
Let’s get to it…
Your challenge…
Your desire for change and growth is going to challenge your default behaviours. If you want to change them, here's some perspective for you: Start by picking one particular thing you're working towards right now, it could be a skill you want to learn or something you want to start or stop doing. As always, choose something small to practice with.
Acknowledge:
Nothing changes until you know what it is that you want to change and why this change matters to you. Be specific.
Make a plan:
Once you acknowledge the behaviour and why it's the default, you can create a plan to change it. The plan may include specific small steps you will take, as well as strategies for overcoming obstacles and setbacks.
Practice:
Changing a default behaviour takes time and effort. There may be setbacks along the way...this is normal. Don't give up! Remember to celebrate your progress and successes, no matter how small they may seem.
Give yourself some grace:
"Two steps forward, one step back... Remember... Be kind. Be Patient. Be consistent."
If you're ready to make a change Contact me You have all of the skills, strengths, and capabilities you need. Let’s work together and reconnect you with them!
Warmly, Ann